The truths about why you think you are not succeeding.
Often there is wonderful information out there that tells you why you are not succeeding at what you are doing. That information can be true and correct for some of us. There can also be missing pieces as to why you think you are not succeeding. I know that one truth can be that you are actually on your way to success and don’t even know it.
Let me ask you this. What do you deem as success? What is your idea of success? Success is the emotion that tells you, ‘you made it.’ Success is the feeling that rises up within you to let you know ‘it’s happening.’ Is success feeling healthy to you? Is success feeling financially secure to you? Is it losing weight? Is success feeling loved? Is it owning your own home? Whatever it is, it all balls down to one thing-the end product which is the feeling that you generate when success has arrived. And that is HAPPINESS!
O.k so you probably think ‘REALLY’, or ‘ARE YOU KIDDING ME’ Jennifer. I know some of you will say, well happiness is not going to put food on the table or pay my bills. You’d be wrong and I’ll tell you why. If you were to find happiness often and just decide I am going to be happy no matter what my circumstances are, you would see your world change. Let me explain this in an analogy of a sponge.
So, I want you to imagine two sponges. Just like the ones you use to wash your car(you still wash your car right? Well, if you don’t, try to remember the one your parents used to wash their car with before we got spoilt and went to car washes-ha ha). I remember those sponges that were large with holes in them and always reminded me of swiss cheese…. Now imagine one is open and ready to soak, whilst the other one is bunched up tight in a ball. Don’t laugh, you’re going to like this-I hope! The one that is open and ready to soak up water is a ‘happy’ sponge. It absorbs the water quickly and without effort. It can take on more and carry more. It gets the job done. The one that is tight and bound up is a ‘grumpy’ sponge. It takes much longer and doesn’t absorb water evenly. It’s flow in and out is poor and so is it’s performance.
Now I liken this analogy to when you are feeling grumpy and cranky all the time, your performance will be poor. Your ability to go with the flow and allows things to flow to you will be poor. How you feel will reflect how things will go for you. When you are happy you are filled with a feeling of wholeness and richness. You have little or no cares in your life. You appreciate things and life is just damn wonderful.
Can you see where I am going with this? Which sponge are being lately?
Now you’re probably asking the question, but how is happiness going to change my life-even financially? Well let me tell you this,
It is the essence to life.
Do you know really successful happy people? Do you think that maybe they were always like that? Maybe they were and maybe not. Do you think that maybe some of those people may have been financially secure, healthy and loved but just found there was something missing in their lives.-Happiness. You know, you don’t need to be wealthy to be happy. You can choose to be happy with very little money, because for some reason things begin to flow to you when you don’t find one hundred and one excuses on why not to be happy. But you might say, ‘If I can get financial freedom first then I will be happy.’ Actually it works the other way around.
Financial freedom is an extension of you and when you decide to get happy and apply yourself in life then you become the person you set out to be. At birth we are all created equally in the sense that we all have choice and choice is available at any time.
So what I want you to absorb here is,(hope you’re a happy sponge because it will serve you better) to know that true success on all levels can be achieved. If you are a mostly happy, mostly healthy, mostly loved and can mostly pay my bills kinda person, then life is serving you well and you are on your way to more. If you are finding yourself whining and complaining that there isn’t enough of the good stuff in life then it is time to change your attitude.
Success is only a choice away
When you wake up in the morning you must choose to want success and you must be ready to do whatever it takes to achieve that. My latest thing for success is how to be a better mother to my children in the morning and greet them with love instead of 100 reasons why they haven’t done what they are supposed to . Would I really want someone shouting and barking orders at me first thing in the morning? Not really. So I let them awaken and then 15 minutes later I try to remind them to get going with their schedule. And sometimes there is screaming, but I am working on it. (I also live in a large home so sometimes the yelling is necessary…..hey no-one is perfect! ha ha.) In the past it had worked but as children grow their needs change as well their habits. So it is a constant change and go with the flow as much as I can without too much rocking the boat and although sometimes the boat get’s rocked it’s nowhere near as bad as tipping the boat over.
So I am working on being calmer from my waking stage to theirs and then some. It starts the day off better for all of us. My other challenge is to not sweat the small stuff regarding my children’s mess from time to time. Sometimes you just gotta let it go. Still working on that one. But I am choosing to make different thought patterns about it.
Success can come fast but who is taking score?
It’s important to realize success comes when you do things repetitively and consistently. Regardless of what it is you are wanting to achieve, results will come when you focus on what you need to do to bridge that gap. The point is not to do something to get it done, although most people think this is how to live a life. The point is to enjoy and learn about something that you are putting your effort and time into. Life gets boring when you know how to do everything because you have mastered it. So look at what is being presented in your life as a wonderful challenge that will cause you to be in a different space and then you will say to yourself ‘I feel as if I have grown or expanded with this new thing I am doing’. Now that is true success.
When you are working towards something, it may seem important to have deadlines and in fact they can be quite useful to your progress. But make sure you focus on your deadline so that it brings you to the next one and so on in order for you to keep at it. Taking score about whether you have made a monetary gain will cause you to run off in a ditch. Of course in the back of your mind you will have an idea of what you would like to make and how nice that would be. But in the mean time it is as we say in Australia-Head down, bum up. It’s a saying that means-get to work!
Sometimes success can come faster to others and take a lot longer with others. Don’t compare yourself to how fast or slow you are progressing against others. Again, you will run off into a ditch. Make sure you have a strategy and stick to it. It’s fine to tweak your strategy, but keep it going. In the beginning and for a while, I would not even recommend that you insist on asking yourself why you haven’t made the money you intended by such and such a date.
Off in the ditch…..again!
I want you to take some time now to measure your successes. Are you only measuring how much money you have or haven’t made? If you are then stop doing that. It’s time to measure your experiences and how far you have come instead of measuring where you should be.
If you wanted to lose weight and you started a programme, do you think that you would lose weight straight away? Maybe for some but it is highly unlikely. So where is the success in that? Good question?
A person wanting to get fit and lose weight would need to measure their success like this:
- I made a start
- I feel good for doing that task
- I gave it my all
- I think I would like to do it again tomorrow
- I like they way it makes me feel
- I feel proud
Do you think that they were successful in losing weight yet? No, but they are on their way to success through how it makes them feel and by applying themselves regularly they will get there over time. The emotions are powerful leads here in order to drive success. That’s why it is important to have a good attitude in your life-most of the time.
Success is a constant evolution
If you are wanting success in finances, health, love or anything else for that matter you must understand that it starts with a choice and then there is a journey to get to your desired outcome. Once you get there you will constantly find new and interesting ways to maintain and expand the way in which you do things. Why? Because life would get boring.
So start thinking about your life and your challenges you want to achieve as do-able. Look at your successes that you have already in order to start on the right foot. Think about success as a ‘happy sponge’ first and when you fall off the wagon, just get on the next wagon that is coming. Pat yourself on the back more, don’t wait for others to do it.
I’d love to hear your comments. Tell me what you struggle with and let me help you to a solution. Let me know how you view success?
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