“I am failing and it is good!”

I hope you enjoyed listening to my vlog(video-log) and now I am going to offer to you a more solid look and see in words that will help you to go forth with courage.

What they think of you is none of your business

I want you to forget about what other people think of you. If you want to truly be successful in life, if you want to truly be happy then no one is holding you back but you. You are going to have to let go of what other people say about you or what they think of you . What they think is none of your business.-You’ve heard that one before, unless of course you make it your business. What you think about you matters-literally….it materializes.

Try to find a way to shake it off what people are going to say and what they are going to think of you. Everyone has an opinion and I would focus on those opinions that help you become a better person. That give you the positivity to get there. That addresses you with constructive criticism to get you there.  Get the focus on you and start working towards those things you want to experience and receive in your life since they start and end with you.

Look for Positivity in Failure

If you can look for the ‘wonderful’ in what you have failed at, then you will become a master at becoming really good at whatever you want to be. When you can learn and grow from your experiences you will begin to see failure as a wonderful learning curve. Personally I don’t like the word failure as it has so many negative connotations, but if you can find a way to feel different about the word you will rise above it and begin to have a go more at those things that you fear, that failure that you so fear. It is not the failure so much that you fear it is the things that are attached to it like the negative emotions such as-embarrassment, rejection, ridicule and what any other negative emotion that you may experience whilst having a go. It will however make you stronger and through it, if you can begin to laugh at yourself more then you will relax more with it.

(My husband said to me recently, “you need to pick better pictures on your videos”-he was referring to the still photo that had come off my facebook livestream shot. My response to him was-“some of them are really funny and some of them are worse than that. But I am here to share a message, not how I look.” I know it is important to look presentable, but I have no control over the facebook photos that represented my livestream and if I could fix it I would. But I just accept it and hope that people focus on the message. I am comfortable with how things are presented as it is real and I like things to be only a little bit controlled and mostly organic. I like to keep it RAW!)

O.k so maybe in the beginning it might be a little like that or a lot, but when you put yourself out there, there will be also many positive emotions and experiences that will come from it either during or after the experience-but how will you ever know unless you try?

The greatest thing you will gain from any of it will be that you will feel the freedom and expansion of more in your life. You will feel bigger because of the experiences and no-one can take that away from you. You will also add to your confidence and self-esteem, something I am so passionate about and you are doing it for yourself which again no one can do for you.

You cannot fail! You cannot only fail at not trying.

So what are you waiting for? Get out there! Have a go! Give it your best and start living.

I’d love to hear your stories on what you do and how you overcome your fears. Perhaps even what fears you have that are holding you back. Get in touch with me now by posting your comments here-Lashings of Love-Jennifer

Author: Jennifer Giacoppo

I love Personal Development and I love sharing my experiences, tips and techniques on how I apply Personal Development in my life.
I am an Aussie girl who also loves Zumba, cooking, having fun, laughing a lot, redesigning and re-upholstering, gardening, meditating.
Spending time with my family and friends
I love a good meal.
I looooove a good gin and tonic.

16 thoughts on ““I am failing and it is good!””

  1. Hi Jennifer,

    This is a very interesting topic and one that I have wrestled with all my life.

    Confession time: Far too often I have been concerned , even worried sometimes, about what other people may think of cerain actions or stands that I take.

    And you’re right – “what they think of you in one of your business” but that’s also a tough thing to keep in mind sometimes.

    I really appreciated your thoughts about “fear of failure” and I never truly realized before that my fear was not the “failure” bit but rather all the emotional baggage that may come with it.

    Jennifer your posts are always so very thought provoking and I truly appreciate yu sdharing your passion and expertise.

    And yes you cannot only fail at not trying!

    Best wishes from the remote Thai village marketer

    Peter
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    1. Hey Peter,
      I love that you enjoy my posts and always try to give so that people can truly get something out of the message.
      It’s not the failure that concerns us like you said, it’s all the other stuff that concerns us-the baggage that we impose before it even get’s off the ground. I love inspiring people and appreciate you stopping by-Jennifer

  2. Excellent post Jennifer. Loving yourself is most important and being humble. A feel-good post! As always, you do post excellent advice.
    Sincerely
    David

    1. Hey David,
      loving yourself is the key to all the things we want in life, since when we do we are truly being who we are meant to be. Thanks for stopping by and sharing- Jennifer

    1. Hey Stephanie,
      thankyou for visiting my blog and commenting. I agree, the older we get the more we realize how unimportant another’s opinion is of us. I like that children tend to be quite knowing with their own ideas on how they don’t really care what other people think.

      We were all like that once and as we go along in life we tend to care too much what other’s think. Then as we get older we realize it is pointless. Sort of comes around full circle.-Thanks for taking the time to visit my blog. Look forward to meeting again-Jennifer

  3. Hi, Jennifer

    Enjoy reading this post because of the encouragement and inspirational message.

    The only thing we will have is inferior if we pay too much attention to other people opinion. Yes, it is so critical to have a life that you want when you don’t care about other people opinion.

    It is important to take each failure as an opportunity to learn and take each one as the building block of future success. You are so right that failure is a sure thing if you don’t try.

    Will share!

    Stella Chiu
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  4. Hi Jennifer,

    I see ‘failure’ as a wonderful learning experience. We can try something and it ‘fails’ but when you look at the expensive lesson, you learn very quickly.

    Indeed, we have to put ourselves out there, especially on video. It doesn’t matter what others think or say. Once we reach that mindset, it gets easier.

    -Donna
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    1. Hey Donna,
      thanks for taking the time to read my blog and watch my vlog. Failure is wonderful isn’t it and when we can change that word so that it doesn’t feel so bad then we change our attitude towards it.

      I am a big believer in that it does get easier the more you do things and the more you put yourself out there the more you want to do.

      Thanks for visiting you wonderful Gal-Jennifer

  5. Hi Jennifer. I agree with most of what you said. You can let fear of what other people think keep you from doing what you want to do. You should always be willing and ready to do something new if it is something that interests you.

    My issue is with the word “failure.” To my thinking, the only way you can fail at something is to quit and don’t gain anything of value from the experience. That should be impossible if you put any real effort into is. Like you said, the word has a lot of negative connotations attached to it, and that is reason enough to stay away from the word. If you take on a word, you also take on its energy.

    Talk of failure has become really popular lately. It’s like people want to be positive, but they have been so programmed to be negative that they just can’t quite give it up.

    Just my 2 cents. Thanks for sharing your post.
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    1. Hey Ben,
      awesome suggestions you have made here mate and I am in agree-ance with you on the whole aspect of a word. I don’t like the word and find it quite negative, so that’s why I try to soothe it with a new way of thinking. I see it as learning and growing. One cannot fail except if they don’t try-then they will never know.

      I love your input and look forward to the next visit-Jennifer

  6. Hi Jennifer

    Failure rocks!

    Well, not really. Although it’s amazing how often something positive can come from life’s setbacks.

    Example:

    Ten years ago my traditional Main St business was failing so I had to find another income source. Enter stage left, internet based affiliate marketing. Ten years later I’m still doing it.

    It’s changed my life and gave me the opportunity to adopt the digital nomad lifestyle .

    The point:
    If that old business had not failed i would still be living back in my boring hometown, leading a pleasant but unexciting life.

    So I’ll say it again:

    Failure rocks!

    Thanks for airing this pertinent topic, Jennifer

    Kim
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    1. Hey Kim,
      I agree. There truly is no failure when you look at it that way. Just new opportunities to do things different, or change or even just seeing it as learning into something more, something new. I think true failure is not having a go and not finding a way to survive and thrive. Thanks for stopping in it is appreciated and your words are wonderful. SO to the point-Jennifer

  7. Nice one Jennifer. The one thing I would add is that it takes faith to do anything uncommon. What that means for me is that you need to be willing to do things that are uncommon for others.

    Honestly, others are fearful of what you can and will become by doing what you’re doing and their whole goal is to discourage you from accomplishing it.

    It’s the crawfish in the bucket mentality. When they see you climbing up, they want to pull you back down.

    I say to you, keep on failing because all you’re doing is learning what doesn’t work. Most of the successful people you see are big time failures, they just chose to keep on failing until they figured it out.

    take care and God bless,

    Jerry

    1. Hey Jerry,
      sorry it’s been a while since I replied, I have been at other courses. I like what you say as I can feel your power in your words. I can hear the unstoppable Jerry in there.

      I also have come across a new phrase and that is “failure” is just another word for “Feedback”. I really like that one.
      Yes, I agree with you when you say failure is just learning what doesn’t work.
      Thanks for taking the time to stop by and for your comments-Jennifer

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